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The How To Sex Blog
Short, practical articles on the questions our guides get asked most: talking about sex, protection, pain, pleasure and rebuilding intimacy. Every piece is written plainly, reviewed against public health sources, and contains no explicit material.
Latest Articles
Start anywhere. Each article stands on its own and links back to the full guide it belongs to.
How to Use a Condom Correctly
Condoms are highly effective when used properly and far less so when they are not. Here is the correct method, and the ten errors that cause most failures.
Lube 101: Which Type to Use and When
Lubricant is the cheapest upgrade to comfort there is, and the wrong kind can destroy a condom in minutes. Here is how to choose.
How Often Do Couples Have Sex?
Averages by age, what the once-a-week research really found, and why comparing your relationship to a number is usually the problem, not the answer.
Why Does Sex Hurt? Causes and What Helps
Pain during sex is common, rarely talked about, and almost always treatable. Here are the usual causes and the point at which it needs a clinician.
The Orgasm Gap and How to Close It
Around 95% of heterosexual men orgasm during partnered sex, against roughly 65% of heterosexual women. The reason is not biology.
How to Initiate Sex Without Awkwardness
Initiating gets harder the longer you are together, mostly because rejection costs more. Here is how to make yes easy and no survivable.
Pelvic Floor Exercises for Better Sex
One of the few sexual health interventions with real clinical evidence behind it, for both men and women. Here is how to do it correctly.
Aftercare: What to Do After Sex
What happens in the ten minutes after sex shapes how the whole experience is remembered. Here is the emotional and practical side of it.
Sex After Having a Baby
The six-week rule, what nobody warns you about dryness and pain, and how couples rebuild intimacy when both of them are exhausted.
How These Articles Are Written
Every article starts from a question readers actually ask, not from a keyword list. We write the answer in plain English, check it against independent public health sources such as the NHS, the World Health Organization and ACOG, and link out to them so you can read further.
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Start With a Full Guide
The blog goes deep on single questions. These six guides cover each subject end to end.
01
Beginner's Guide
Consent, preparation, protection, arousal and what to expect the first time.
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02
Sex Positions
Fifteen positions in six families, with depth control and comfort modifications.
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03
For Him
Satisfying a partner, foreplay, lasting longer and performance anxiety.
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04
For Her
Arousal, asking for what you want, pain and dryness, and confidence.
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05
Intimacy & Tips
Why a long-term sex life fades, and how couples rebuild it.
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06
Health & Safety
Protection, contraception, STI testing and personal safety.
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